Dienstag, 29. Dezember 2009

Bali Rai


Bali Rai is the son of a Punjabi family. His family immigrated to England.
He was born 1971 in Leicester. He started writing at the age of eight. He likes to read and wanted to be a professional football player or a writer.

He study 5 years politics in London and went back to Leicester 1995.
He worked in different bars to get some money. He finished his first book “(un)arrange marriage”. The book is translated in eight languages. His books get some prices.
Today he is still living in Leicester and has open his own bar.

Pronolog

November 30th

Manny, 17 hides in a toilette of a motorway service. He thinks about his wedding today. He should marry a girl who he does not know. He makes himself sure that he will not do want his family expect him to do. He will not marry only to keep the Punjabi traditions of the families.

Part 1- Four years earlier: Chapter 1

May

Manjit, “Manny” is 13 years old. He lives with his parents and his two brothers in Leicester. He has also two sisters who not live at home. There marry mans from India so that they can live illegal in England. Manny parents and his brothers Ranjit and Harry start to organise his arrange wedding when he gets 17 years old. His father loves the Punjabi traditions and wants to keep them in there family. He drinks a lot of alcohol, makes racist comments and he hits Manny often. Manny is like the “black sheep” of his family, he is more influenced by the western culture. Harry and Ranjit are newer versions of their father. Ranjit has married a Punjabi girl, Jas who they did not know before. Harry lives with Manny is a room. His mother is not interested in her son. She never talks to him. Manny’s family is not interested in school education. They want to Manny to earn money and not to study. Manny has a best friend. His name is Ady and he is black Jamaican. Ady and Manny steal, smoke and drink alcohol.

Chapter 2

October

Manny is in year 8. Ranjit goes to be a father and Harry arranges marriage is set. Ekbal is Manny’s cousin; his family is the opposite of Manny’s family. Ekbal’s father is interested in education and does not take the Punjabi tradition so seriously. Manny makes a list how his live seems to go on. He thinks his life is going to be “the hell” living with 7 family members he does not like in one house.
Manny family is proud because of there culture background but they think Manny wants to be a `white´. Sometimes his family visit a marriage of family members, Manny stays at home because there is not enough space in the car. He would never do a party because his father will kill him if he gets to know it. Manny wants to be famous. Manny’s father tells him a lecture about saving the Punjabi culture because Manny tells him that he does not want to attend his family by a wedding of his cousin. The father tells Manny that he will be married with the daughter of his friend because she wants to live in England legally. He will marry at the age of just seventeen. He thinks about a way to escape.

Chapter 3

July

Manny hates to live in one room with Harry. Harry is dirty and always blackmailing Manny. He can’t stop thinking at that what his father tells him about his marriage. In the summer holidays Manny goes often out with Ady. It helps him forget the situation with his family for a few hours. Manny is happy to be born in England. England is his home country. Often he does lots of excurses. They go shoplifting or play football. In Leicester live lots of Asian and Africa people. Also there are places where rich people live and also places where people have nothing to live (ghettos). Ady wants to go out with a girl of his school, Sarah. At first Manny is not interested to get along with girls but when he sees the girl with the ringlet (Sarah’s cousin), he changes his view.

Chapter 4

August

Manny and Ady go in the city again to see the girls there. Ady steals a pen to sell it to a classmate. Ady is great in imitating people. The two boys see the girl again and want to go out with them.

Chapter 5

October

Manny is now in year 9. The girl with the ringlet calls Lisa. Ady goes out with Sarah. Manny and Lisa are both to shy so they ignore each other in school. Manny is not allowed to have a girlfriend. His father would not allow him to meet a white girl. Manny is often dreaming (and wishing) that he is adopted.
He feels very unnecessary when he go along with Ady to a date with Sarah. Sarah and Ady plan to make a match between Manny and Lisa.
Manny has trouble with his father because he came home late. He also has trouble with his brothers. He thinks that is brothers are racists. They tell him that he can not stop what he is.

Chapter 6

December

Manny meets Lisa about teen time (because Ady arrange the first date). At first they are talk about books. They plan to meet again but only at Lisa’s home. Manny tells Lisa a lot about his family life. He trusts Lisa.
Lisa holds Mandy’s hands. When he arrives at home Ekbal visits Manny. Ekbal tells Manny not to say “yes” to the arranged marriage. Manny thinks about his future and that he has to rearrange the marriage because he likes Lisa and he will not marry a girl he does not know.

Part 2- A year later: Chapter 7

December

Manny gets cached from the police when he steals a CD. He gets a lot of trouble at home with Harry; he hits him and screams at Manny. It is a shame for there honour. Harry calls Ady a black bastard. His Daddy is in India because of the death of an aunt. Ranjit tries to talk to his brother. Manny begins to cry and Ranjit gives him a hug. He says that he would preferably died as marry at the age of seventeen.

Chapter 8

May

When the father arrives at home, Harry tells him that Manny steal a CD. The father gets angry and says that his wife is to gentle to her son, that it is her fault that he gets criminal. His father wants to educate him in a strict and disciplined way like his father educated him. The children of Punjabi families have no choice to say yes or no to a arrange marriage. If they would say no there family would repudiates them. Manny’s father talks to Manny. Next summer Manny should marry the girl from the Punjab. The girl wants to visit Manny in England to get to know him. Manny is afraid. Manny’s father notices the reaction of Manny and tells him not to run away and to leave his family with shame and without pride. His father pressures Manny. His mother makes a scene and prays and cries because Manny seems to say no to the arrange marriage. Manny is confused. He does not know what to do. His father tells him that he will bring him to India till he change his point of view and say “yes” to the arrange marriage.

Chapter 9

June

In school Manny has to go to the second principal because his grades are getting so bad. He tries to find out why Manny is not anymore interested in education. The principal asks him if his parents know about the relationship between him and Lisa.

Chapter 10

June

Manny tells him about some problem he has at home. The second principal could understand his problems. He is also an Asian who has married a white girl. Manny tells Lisa that the principal know about there relationship. Lisa wants to support Manny to say “no” to the arranged marriage. Manny is thankful for the support but thinks that Lisa sometimes could not understand his confusing thought because she has all she ever wanted. Overall he decides to “unarranged” the marriage. Manny hates to hide the girl that he loved.

Chapter 11

November

Manny has a bad re-start in school. He decides not to tell the second principal more about his family situation because he feels like he is in a “Talk show”. He skives a lot of school. Lisa tells him not to do so. If he does it further, it could be that he be expelled from school. For one month he is better in school. One night he goes out with Ady in a club and comes home drunk. He thinks his father will be awake and makes him a scene but it was not so.

Chapter 12

End of November

After the night out with Ady, Manny has a terrible hangover. Manny takes notice about his feelings and thoughts. He loves to live in his own room. At his birthday his father and his brothers go with him in a pub. His father tells him that he is a man now. In the Pub, Harry and Manny, get in trouble with each other. Harry says that Manny is not a Punjabi and that he thinks he is better that his other family members. Manny calls Harry bad names in front of Harry’s Punjabi friends. Harry gets angry. After that conflict he leaves the Pub and goes to Lisa at midnight. He is sure that he has to break free.

Chapter 13

December

Manny talks to Lisa’s father about his problems. He tells Lisa that he skives and shoplifts because of the problems at home. Lisa parents invite him for dinner. Ady helps him to find an excuse to stay a way from home. Ady imitates the voice of his teacher and says that Manny has a very important football trial. Sarah Ady’s girlfriend is pregnant. At Lisa’s home her mother wants to talk to Manny about having sex. Manny tells her that his parents told him that sex is something bad. The parents leave so that Lisa and Manny are alone at home.

Chapter 14

March

Manny begins to sleep more often at Lisa’s home. Manny skives all the time and Mr. Cook (Manny’s favourite teacher) tells him to repeat the class. If he gets one more time cachet by skiving he will be expelled. Ady visits Manny in school and tells him that Manny forget his birthday because of that Manny skives again. Ady tells Manny that he has no job and no money for his child and his girlfriend and that he would like to have more to offer to his family. Manny goes back to school and vomits because he takes drugs and drinks alcohol by going out with Ady. He has to leave school. Manny is not sure if it was right to do the “bad boy” cheat.

Chapter 15

April-May

The days after his expelled from school he stays at home without seeing Lisa or Ady. His family wants Manny to make holidays in India. His parents want him to come to his sense. Manny gets to know a story about a boy who changes his whole life because his family left him one year in India. He thinks about running away but he can not because he has not got enough money/ possibilities.
Jas, Ranjit’s wife talks to Manny. He has to go for 8 weeks and Jas promises him that his family will not leave him alone in India. Finally he decides to make holidays in India because Lisa wants to visit Australia for some time. She wrotes him a letter by telling him that she can not go on like it this. Not see each other. Manny is upset. He decides to visits India because of 3 reasons. The first is that he gets emotional blackmailed by his family, secondly he thinks to make holidays could be great and the final reason is that Lisa leaves him and he does not what to do without Ady and Lisa. He feels like he lives in a prison.

Part 3- India: Chapter 16

June

Manny and his family arrived in India. He sees everywhere poor people. It seems to be very chaotic. The streets are broken. He notices very fast that in India are different morals and rules. From the airport to the place where their relatives are living they have to drive with a taxi and a bus. Manny feels very bad. The hotness is new for him.

Chapter 17

June

The family visit uncle Piara, aunt Pritan and their four children. There lives also uncle Gurvinder, aunt Harpal and their four children. Manny accustoms in there way of live. Manny often goes out with his cousin. He smokes a lot. He does not like the Indian cigarettes so he buys new. The seller is not going to tell Manny’s father or his uncle that he buy cigarettes because Manny’s cousin knows that he has sex with other girls. The seller is under pressure.

Chapter 18

July

Manny lives in a shabby place. It is not that beautiful as his parents said. He gets to know new family members. He is allowed to drink beer because he is a “man” know. Manny thinks about Ady and Lisa and what there are possible doing. Sometimes he has some problems with the language

Chapter 19

August

Ranjit flies away earlier than planed. Manny is happy that he will be at home in about 2 weeks. Every day was the same in India. He has to work in the lands, hangs around, eats and sleeps. After 9 weeks his parents tells him that his passport is stolen and that they have to stay in India. His cousin shows him a scar. He tattles Lally who buys drugs. Lally hits him with a scythe.
His revenge is that he pricks the condoms so that his wife gets pregnant.

Chapter 20

August

He makes an excursion to Anandpur with his cousin and his uncle. Anandpur is the most beautiful place he has seen in India. When he drives back home he is afraid because of the way back. Back at home he sees that only his bag is rest in the house.

Chapter 21

August

Manny’s family fool him. They go back to England without him. Manny appalles. He has not seen the clues because he trusts them. He begins to be more often alone. He speaks to Mohan (an old wise man) about the caste system. Mohan tells him that there will be always someone who has more than oneself. He gets a letter from Jas. She writes that she honestly does not know something about the plan of his parents. Also she tells him that Ady and Lisa write him. His marriage is set at the end of November. In some weeks his brother will pick him from the airplane in England. She tells him that his father leaves him in India because he is afraid that he runs away. Manny gets to know uncle Jag. Manny knows that his passport has to be in the house. He has to search it.

Chapter 22

August

Uncle Jag is the back sheep in the family. He brings the family shame because he does not fallow the Punjabi traditions. He marries a white girl and travel around the world. He does not fallow the caste system. He hears a conversation between his uncle Jag and Piara about him. Manny pass out.

Chapter 23

August

Manny talks to Jag. Jag tells him that he learns English and has a good education. He goes to university, gets his job and starts to earn money. He has to travel a lot and he likes it. He tries to send the family in India some money but they do not want it from Jag because of the shame he brings to them. Jag allows Manny to smoke. After Jag tells Manny his story, Manny tells Jag about his life. Jag decides to help him to escape from India back to England. Manny thinks that his uncle is totally different from the rest of his family.

Chapter 24

August/September

They steal Manny’s passport. Manny talks to Mohan. He decides to give his camera to Mohan before he leaves India. He learns a lot in India for example that there are thinks in the world that are more important than to have the newest clothes or shoes. Manny sees that someone gets hit, he helps. He should collect something of Mohan. And starts to pack one’s bags. The plan begins.

Chapter 26

September

Manny gets wake up very early. He makes "Paratha’s.” Then he wakes up his family members and they eat together. Manny picks his things and goes to the car that Mohan obtains. Jag and Manny drive to the airport.

Chapter 27

September

Jag tells Manny that he gives them weed in their food so they will not notice that he is missing. Manny and Jag arrive at the airport. The aeroplane flies starts later because of a problem. They decide to go in a hotel.

Chapter 28

September

Jag and Manny have breakfast. Jag asks Manny what he is going to do to unarranged the marriage. Manny wants to make his own decisions. He wants to life his own live and not the live his family expects him to live. Jag tells Manny to live repudiate from his family is not easy. It is a big price for freedom. Jag has a wife and a child. They exchange their addresses. Manny thinks about the place where he wants to live after he escapes from home. He flies to England and goes home. As his father sees him he gives him the biggest slap he ever gets.

Part 4- The wedding: Chapter 29

October

In England he meets Ady. Ady is a father now. Manny starts to work in a supermarket. The slap of his father makes Manny stronger. Manny will see Lisa in a club again. Manny’s brother tells him that the organisation for the weeding is set and that it costs about 10.000£. Manny sees Lisa in a club again. She cries.

Chapter 30

November

Manny says yes to the arrange marriage. But only in front of his family. He cheats them. Manny thinks his family is easy to cheat because they are so less interested in him that they do not realize the truth. The weeding is about 3 days. There are lots of ceremonies. His family congratulates him to his “luck”. Manny brings his clothes to Ady’s home and tells Jas that he will shake away his old clothes because he is a “real man” now.

Chapter 31

Friday 28th November

Manny spends a lot of time with Lisa. He tells Lisa and her father his plan how to unarrange the marriage. The family of his “soon” wife is in England to visit Manny. His father tells him something about honour and pride. Then the father gives Manny money. Manny is sure that he will go trough it also when he gets repudiate of his family. Ady helps him. Manny has to go trough many weeding ceremonies.

Chapter 32

Saturday 29th November

Manny’s father gives Manny some money. In the evening there is a party for all mans in the family and Manny has a bit trouble. First he comes late and secondly a mate of harry calls Ady monkey. Manny goes out and sees Ekbal. He lies also to Ekbal to let his cheat be sure.

Chapter 33

Sunday 30th November

Manny’s 17 birthdays, his weeding day. He gets drive to the temple in his weeding clothes. He goes on the toilet on a highway. He is unsure but then remembers to all the thinks he could do if he is free. His father never leaves him alone. Manny tells his father that he has to go to the toilet again. His father is sceptical. Manny has panic. He runs out of a fire exit door. Ady picks him up with a car. Manny is free.

now: Chapter 34

Tuesday 30th November

Two years after he disappears he is not regrets anything. Manny is nineteen and lives at Lisa’s home. He and Lisa are not together anymore. Lisa makes her travelling and Manny still works in the supermarket. He wants to earn some money to restart his education. He is happy that he can make his own decisions. His family leave Leicester and they act like he has never existed. Manny is going to see Jag in London. Ady’s little son is going to be the same as Ady. Manny owes Ady a lot. For example: about the cheat and the run away. Manny is Zac’s (Ady’s son) godfather. He goes out with a new girl, Jenny. Manny is happy because he can choose what he wants.

Words

Words


1. agreement - Abmachung
2. aimlessly - Ziellos
3. anmongst - inmitten
4. avoid - etw. vermeiden
5. bravado - Angeberei
6. bender - das Besäufnis
7. bloodshot eyes - blutunterlaufende Augen
8. bloke - der Kerl (ugs.)
9. bother - der Ärger
10. bowl - Becher
11. calm - jem. beruhigen
12. caught - gefangen
13. crucial - entscheidend
14. duty - die Aufgabe
15. embarrassing - peinlich
16. engaged - verlobt
17. fear - Angst
18. fists - die Faust
19. giggle - kichern
20. gossip - Tratsch
21. honour - die Ehre
22. hosiery - Strumpfware
23. influence - Der Einfluss
24. issue - das Thema
25. knife - die Klinge
26. mood - Gemütszustand
27. moustached - Schnurrbart
28. mumbling - Murmeln
29. nab - schnappen
30. newer versions - neue Version
31. nightmare - Alptraum
32. odd - merkwürdig
33. pillows - das Kissen
34. preferably - lieber, vorzugsweise
35. provoke - jmdn./etw. provozieren
36. posse - der Trupp
37. recommend - empfehlen
38. ringlets - Ringellocken im Haar
39. Sister-in-law - Schwägerin
40. suntan - die Sonnenbräune
41. squealer - Nörgler
42. tease - jmdn. ärgern
43. toddlers - Kleinkind
44. unsuitable - untauglich
45. vest - die Veste
46. vomiting - das Erbrechen
47. wary - vorsichtig
48. whilst - während
49. weed – dealer - Drogenverkäufer (Weedverkäufer)
50. weird - sonderbar

Manny's family


Manny’s family

Manny

Language: English, bit Punjabi (colloquial, young)

Education: go to school

Religion: Sikhs

Ethnic: see himself as English, is Punjabi

Friends: best fiend Ady,
Lisa his girlfriend

Philosophy: wants to be free and wants to do own decisions

Role: black sheep

Attitude: wants to be British

Harry

Language: Punjabi, short forms
English, slang, informal
->limited range of vocabulary
Education: factory worker

Religion: Sikhs

Ethnic: love to be Punjabi

Friends: only Punjabi friends

Philosophy: keep his traditions
earn money, having children, marry
Role: a newer version of his father

Attitude: doesn’t like Britain

Ranjit

Language: Punjabi
English
Education: factory worker

Religion: Sikhs

Ethnic: Punjabi

Friends: only Punjabi friends

Philosophy: newer version of his father

Role: help with strict, substitute education, elder son

Attitude: prefer to live in India


Father


Language: mixed English and Punjabi

Education: plastic factory

Religion: Sikhs (is not “really” religious but say he is)

Ethnic: Punjabi

Friends: Punjabi friends (meet in bar)

Philosophy: keep the Punjabi traditions (in a strict way)

Role: head of the family

Attitude: doesn’t accept British traditions,
Punjabi traditions are the best

Mother

Language: Punjabi (Bad English)

Education: properly never went to school/ housewife

Religion: Sikhs

Ethnic: India (Punjabi)

Friends: /

Philosophy: try to be a good Punjabi wife

Role: quite, cooking (…)

Attitude: (Punjabi)

Manny's friends

Manny’s friends

Ady relationship to Manny:
-knows about Manny’s situation within the family/ his problems
-talk about everything
-Manny leads Ady astray ->shoplifting
-know each other since junior school
-do a lot together
-helps him to get to know Lisa
-Ady key to western life
-“friendship first”
->their friendship is very important
-Ady supports Manny
->spending time with Ady is a distraction from Manny’s problems


Ady= Manny’s future?!
-> will help him to break free himself from his family
Now: a distraction from his problems

Ady= prelude to Manny’s future
-> A foreshadowing
There are clues in the story that hint at a future development.


Lisa relationship to Manny:
-Manny’s first girlfriend
-knows about his family situation/ the arranged marriage
->support him/ wants to help him
-how to escape (supported by Lisa’s parents)
-they talk about Manny’s future
-Lisa very open minded: understanding respect Manny and his family

Now: support, help, guidance, love
-> will help him to break free



Manny’s friends are a counterbalance to his family/ his problems
-> They make a difference in Manny’s life

Manny's relations

1st person narrator: Manny

1ST person narrator: Manny

->The presentation of the characters in therefore subjective and one- sided
tone: negative, condescending because his family (parents+ brothers) are different
language: colloquial, slang, disrespectful/ coarse
because their cultural+ personal identity is different

-> The members of Manny’s family see themselves differently from the way Manny depicts them!

Ekbal's father - Manny's father

Ekbal’s father
Profession: -doctor
Character/briefs: -forward- thinking
-chilled out
-it does not matter which colures the people have
Education:
-education is important
-want Ekbal to go to university
-study hard
-> a good example of successful integration (liberal +adopted)

Manny’s father
Profession: -works in a factory
Character/briefs: -conservative
-believes in/sticks to Punjabi traditions and culture background
-alcoholic
-aggressive
-strict
-racist
Education: -school is not important
-uneducated
-> earn money
-> example of failed integration

The is not “the Punjabi”
-> their degree at integration is very different

Comment on a sentence

Comment on the sentence
Page.13/14, line 39- 2

“My early adventures with Ady were a prelude to my future. Like a one- minute trailer to a film- a taste of what was to come.”

In the first chapter Manny tells about his family and his relationship to them and to his best friend Ady. He tells that he has not got a good relationship to his family because his mother is not interested in him and his feelings, his father hits him often and his brothers blackmail him.
Ady is Manny’s best friend. He always goes out with him. They chill out, drink alcohol, smoke cigarettes, like to listen to hip hop music and often they steal things from shops.Manny has good grades at school although his parents think that school is a waste of time. Manny’s dad wants to keep the Punjabi traditions.

In the next chapters the situation changes a lot.
The two boys miss lots of time in school. They spend more time together in the city center to steal (or to do other things). Manny refers from school because he missed so many lessons. Ady is the one how helps Manny to escape from his married.

But I think is also possible that the sentence signifies something else.
Just from the beginning the reader gets to know that Manny hates what his parents want him to do. Manny is different from his brothers. His brothers and sisters have had an arranged marriage, but Manny does not want the same for his life. He wants to be free and he does not want to marry a girl he has never seen before at the age of 17. He is a bit like a rebel.
Manny’s parents do not want do not want him to spend with Ady. He is a black- Jamaican and Manny’s parents think that Ady will have a bad influence on their son.

My next point is that without having Ady as a friend he would perhaps never have met Lisa. Ady is together with Sarah. He has sex with her and is going to be a father. It could be that Manny has more and more the feeling that is time that he has to going out with a girl because it is a step of growing up. He also likes the idea of having a girlfriend because his parents are against it. He could never allow Lisa to visit him at his home or let Lisa get to know his parents. Their dates had to take place in secret. And there was the problem of the arrange marriage. Lisa was one of the important reasons why Manny had to do something against his arranged marriage.
I think that Manny liked the idea of having the same freedom like Ady and that he is allowed to make his own decisions.

Evington Road

Unsuitable as possible ?!

English- Homework

Task: Say what Manny’s decision/ strategy on page 37 (line10-12) (part1) implies for his (future) activities/ behaviour (in part2)! What choice does he deliberately make? And for which purpose?
“There was only one thing for it. I’d have to make myself as unsuitable as possible. What father in-i-law in his right mind would want a thief and smoker for a son-in-law?”


Manny makes the choice to be impolite and a rebel. In all what he is doing. In school he is going to be bad. Write bad grades and skiving as much as he can. He is going out with Lisa and lies to his parents. He smokes a lot, takes drugs and drinks alcohol. All against the Punjabi traditions. Also against his parents.

He does that because he thinks that no father-in- laws would let marry his daughter with a “looser”. A rebel. Someone who never had aims someone who never is good in something. He will be a bad Punjabi.
I think that Manny really shows that he is against the “traditions stuff” of his father. With his rebel behaviour he wants to show that he will not let the pressure comes over him.

Leicster- Punjab

1st or 2nd generation

Manny’s parents
-typical 1st generation immigrants
-keep traditions -> defined roles
-do not accept British people/ the British culture/ don’t want to adapt
-proud of their origin
-came to Britain in order to work ->plan to go back
-don’t feel at home in Britain
-religion
-fear: children could become more British
-education: waste of time

Manny’s brothers
-second generation but they do not behave like that
->position between the typical 1st and 2nd generation
-pride (parents, origin, traditions)
-identify with Punjabi culture

Manny
-second generation
-does not want to adopt Punjabi traditions
|
| *never went to the Punjab
| *no Asian friends
| *strongly influenced by Western culture e.g. music
|
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He is not a typical representative of the 2nd generation either

Analyse

Analyse
Task: Analyse the language Bali Rai uses to describe Manny and his father (page 18/19)

Father
“Not, bloody goreh” (line 26)
->he is a racist

“We are Punjabis and proud of it (…)” (line 33-37)
->father is not interested in Manny’s wishes or his opinion; he is dominant
Vocabulary: “proud” (line 34), “duty” (line 10), “pride” (line 11), “honour” (line 11)

“Hangover” (line 16), “real bender” (line 14)
->alcoholic

“Brothers, cousin it’s all the same to us.” (line 25)
->he thinks all the Punjabi men are the same

“picking his ear with a forefinger”
(line 19)
-> Manny thinks his father is disgusting

->not interested in his son, conservative/ pride, bad manners, alcoholic

Manny

“Yes Daddy-ji” (line 13)
->indicate respect

“I was extra polite to him” (line 13)
->seems to be polite but does not mean it


->Manny is represented as a good son who tries to avoid to argue his father


Analyse- Homework 1
Task: Analyse the language Bali Rai uses to describe Manny and his father (page 18/19)

The text passage is from the book “(Un) arrange marriage” was written by Bali Rai. The passage is a typical example of a young rebel who wants to break free.

At first the language of the father. It’s seems that he has the main talking part in the text. He tells Manny that he thinks that he does not like the white people. For example line 26 shows that he says thinks like a racist “Not bloody goreh.”

Next is that the father shows that he is not interested in his son’s wishes and opinion “We are Punjabis and proud of it […]” (line 33-37). It has aswell the effect that the main character traits of the father are clear. He seems to be a dominate person who knows exactly were his parte in the family is.

The vocabularies: proud (line 34), duty (line 10), pride (line 11) and honour (line 11) tells the reader how important the Punjabi tradition is for the father. Also it shows (in the context with the hole book) who important it is for the father, that the neighbours and the people around him have a good picture of him and his family.

But just in the next sentences you get to know, that the father is more like an actor. He is playing the food Punjabi men in front of his neighbours but the truth is that he drinks a lot of alcohol (line 16/14) “real bender” and “hangover”. Normally drinking alcohol is against the Punjabi religion.

The father thinks that the Punjabis are the best. He thinks that they are a union “Brothers, cousins it’s all the same to us” (line 25).
Finally Manny describes his father doing disgusting things like “picking his ear with a forefinger” (line 19).

Overall I would say that the father is a conservative, proud Punjabi man who likes to keep the Punjabi traditions. But he is by drinking alcohol and his bad manners not the best idol for his children. HE is also not interested in his son.

Bali Rai uses different stylistic devices for describing Manny.
Firstly Manny tries to indicate respect by calling his father –ji “Yes Daddy-ji” (line 13).

Secondly and also finally he tries to be ´extra polite´ to his father (line 13) but he honestly does not mean it.
Bal i Rai represented Manny as a son who tries to avoid arguing his father.
Bali Rai uses the language like that, to underline these results.

Analyse

Analyse
Task: Analyse the language the author uses to underline the father’s opinion toward British and Punjabi citizens

British citizens

“Not bloody goreh” (line 26)
->they are not good

“being careful not to become too white”
(line 30)

impure girls

“…put their own mother in homes”
(line 31)


->when talking about British citizens many negations and words which have a negative
connotation are used


Punjabi citizens


“Brothers, cousins it’s all the same to us” (line 25)
->Punjabi are a union

“married to a lovely girl” (line 35)

“beautiful and pure” (line 37)

“God Jat Sikhs” (line 34)
->religious

“working” “married” (line 35)
->marring at the age of seventeen

“getting married at the age of seventeen” (line 7)

“pride and honour” (line11)

->positive word fields words with positive connotations are used



->the author deliberately uses words with negative and positive connotations in order to underline the fact that the father rejects the British culture

Analyse- Homework 2

(page 18/19)

Task: Analyse the language the author uses to underline the father’s opinion toward British and Punjabi citizens

Bali Rai tries to make a clear difference between the thoughts of ´good´ Punjabi citizens and `bad` British citizens.

Firstly Manny’s father says the British are “bloody goreh” (line 26). He makes clear that he does not like them and thinks they are bad.
Secondly he warns his son “not to become to white” (line 30). He thinks that his son will lose the way of Punjabi life.

Overall he says that the British are bad and have a bad influence to his son.

Totally different from the bad citizens of the British he describes the Punjabis as a union “it’s all the same to us” (line 30). He thinks pride and honour are very important (line 10).
He tells Manny that he thinks the Punjabi girls are “beautiful and pure” (line 37) and “lovely girls” (line 35). The father thinks also that it is normal to be promised and “married at the age of seventeen” (line 7).

“Working” and “married” (line 35) that is what for Manny’s father a good Punjabi men is.
Bali Rai let the father talks about his God. It is a sign that he and the Punjabis are religious “God Jat Sikhs” (line 34).

Overall the father seems to think that the Punjabi traditions and the Punjabis are the best/ the better people.

Sonntag, 27. Dezember 2009

Poem

I hold my roots
While I shed my leaves.
I try to keep my face in place.

But sometimes it goes,
And my true colour shows.
At home I am foreign
In school I am foreign.

What is there, is what I see
I can only be…me!

Nadani Chandramohan



First and second generation immigrants
A poem by Nadami Chamdramoher


-two cultures= people from two countries are
“between the chairs”->don’t feel at home in one country
-consider themselves as foreigners-> they are considered as foreigners
-she =tree
-the roots (parent’s home Country) are indispensible for the tree’s life
-leavers= visible, can feel down, change their colour
-she says that although she fries to keep up her image(adapt to the British way of life) sometimes her “true colour shows-> so people only rarely recognize her for who she really is ->she tries too conceal her cultural identity /her ethnicity(colour)
-she can neither identify with her schoolmates no with her family
->she feels foreign and pretends to be somebody she is not (she has two different personas)

-> her massage
She wants to be accepted and free. She demands freedom the conflicting pressures she is exposed to and wants to be herself.

Quotations


Analyse the following quotations taken from chapter eight


1. “My dad was sober” -> double meaning
-normally drunk (now: not aggressive)
-religion
-clear ->able to talk
-the sentence underlines the unnormal (family) situation
2. -he just preludes to be religious ->hypocrite
-climax/ hyperbole
3. -comparison (traditions are repeated)
4. -(generalization)/ exaggeration/ (blackmail)
5. -comparison/ repetition
-> underlines/ emphasis the word
6. -repetition (his)
-parallelism (-> duty)
-contrast (his/my)
-ellipsis (-> highlight something)
7. -repetition (to know)
-similar structure
8. -rhetorical question
-1.sadness, no idea what to do
2. yes, how could/ can he achieve that?
->what can he do? -> plan?!
-repetition of the pronoum “ I ”
->focus
-comparison
-ellipsis

Important passages/Chapter 8

Important passages/ chapter 8

-“Father is Punjabi first, then comes the religion” (page 41/ line 19+20)
-“His voice was super-calm” (page 42/line 18)
-“They wanted him to make a decision- yes or no.” (page 42/line 39/40)
-“He didn’t really have a choice.” (page 42/ line 40)
-“We brought you up to be a good Punjabi.” (page 44/ line 1ff)
-“emotional blackmailing” (page 44/ line 20)
-“really strict upbringing” (page 41/ line 29)
-“I didn’t know what I was going to do” (page 42/ line 2) end?
-“Blood will always be blood” (page 44/ line 4)
-“My dad had always sorted everything out.” (page 42/ line 36ff)
-“…because you think that you are something different from us. Something special.” (page 44/ line 2ff)
-“I have spoken …” (page 42/ line 23)
-“I was hearing but not listening.” (page 43/ line 10f)
-“Is that it? Do you want to kill your mother?” (line 33f)
-“I mean how could I become the cause of so much grief and sadness for my parents?” (page 45, line 3f)

Dialog (groupwork)

Dialog
(page 18/19)


Father: ….Look. Your brothers are happy. Why can’t you be like them?
Do you think you will be happier when you marry a white girl?
Manny: Perhaps not happier but I will be in love.
Manny’s thoughts: Man? What did I say? My father will kill me.
Father: What did you say? Do you want to hurt your mother’s feelings?
It will be your fault when she kills herself because of the shame you bring to our family.
Manny’s thoughts: I hate him! Why can’t he be a bit like Ekbal’s father?
Why he can’t try to understand me?
Manny: Of course not, Daddy-ji. I love my mother!
Father: What about our Punjabi traditions?
Why don’t you want to be Punjabi- men?
Manny’s thoughts: I was born in England. I hate you. I hate the tradition stuff.
I hate your racist thoughts. You are a bastard.
Manny: I prefer to be free and I hope one day you will accept that.
Father: (wants to hit his son)

Punjabi girl

Diary “Manny’s horror Sunday”

Diary “Manny’s horror Sunday”

Sunday 17th May

Dear Diary,
Today the day was terrible.
I could not calm myself down.
How can my old man not respect the way I want to live my life?
I’m confused. What can I do? Or what should I do?

Today dad talked to me about the arranged marriage.
I sat on the sofa watching a football game on TV. My father talked to me in a super- calm way. I was surprised. I did not know that he could be polite.
Something felt very wrong. I tried to fix on the TV. But my old man told me that he arranged my marriage with a daughter of a friend in India. I still fixed on the TV. The situation was so similar to the situation of Harry.
Harry ‘s arranged marriage was not a choice Harry could make either but he wanted the arranged marriage. But I am different. I don’t want to let my father decide what I should do. I want to have the opportunity to say no. I was hardly fixed on the football match. I heard his voice but I did not listen to what he was saying. My old man told me that my arranged marriage was set. The girl will visit England in July. Two moths ahead, only two.
And then he really shocked me. I should marry in summer next year. Only one year ahead. I will be seventeen. I am not ready to get married. The girl I should marry will have the right to stay in England. But what about my rights? Why can’t I be free?
In this moment I was frozen. I could not react. I thought about hitting him or run away but I could not. I was sweaty and felt bad.
My father saw ma reaction. It was not the one he wanted to see. His super-calm voice turned to the voice I knew so well. He chanced his lecture. He saw that he “polite act” he did to me is like he would run in front of a wall. He told me not to ruin the family name. My old man stolen my idea of running away because he knew (and I knew) that I would end up as a druggie or a prostitute. It was my duty to uphold his honour and pride. He started to blackmail me. He told me that I am not someone special or different from them. But I am! His blackmailing was very successful. I felt and I still feel bad. I will always be a Punjabi. But I could also be a liberal Punjabi like Ekbal(‘s family). Suddenly, my old man said that he knew about my shoplifting and about smoking. But the truth is: he did not know. He knows only what I do but he never asks why I am doing these. I was confused. And he, my old man, he was red in his face. He was very angry and he looked as if he was going to loosing control.
My mum came in. She sat down and I immediately understood that she was going to do the “hysterical act” as she did with Harry. She started to cry and to pray. What should I do? My dad asked me if I wanted to kill him or my mother. I was not sure anymore. Their blackmailing made me nervous. Although I knew what they were going to do I was afraid and confused. And I am still.
My old man told me to go to India for one year to become a clear mind. I had no choice. I have no choice. And I hate this feeling no to know what’s wrong or right and not to be free.

Arguments

Arguments against an arranged marriage

-are not free
-can not choose
-they don’t love the girl/boy
-under pressure
-not happy
-emotional blackmailing
-get to young marriage
-can’t get a good job with a family in these age
-are not in the 21st century
-character hat to fit ->often conflicts
-children get children
-no harmony

Weeding customs

Muslim weeding customs

-first step boy’s family ask for a girl
->the family had to be from the same equal status
->good behavior e.g. not criminal
-a girl is selected from family
-choose a relative or a friend to check out the girl
-couple meets
->arranged marriage set
-the boy as to give a gift to the girl
->financially independent

Hindu weeding customs

-the girl’s family has to make the first step
-the girl’s marry with 18 years (spinster)
-the boy’s marry with 20-25 years (bachelor)
-the women have to pay for their men (dowry)
(-caste system)

Modernized weeding customs (for middle class)
-first advertisements
-coffee or a meal on their own either at home/restaurants (before decide to commit)
-allowed to rejects suitors
-engagements can last 6 moths
-cull out what is most oppressive in the traditional system

"Ehrenmord"

Article “Ehrenmord”

The article “Honourkilling let people discuss about it” was published by “Mimration und Bevölkerung.”

A young Turkish women gets kill on the street. The people talks a lot about the Muslim traditions and the arrange marriages.
Hantun S. gets killed on the 7th of February. Possible is that her 3 brothers do the kill. The 23 aged women divorces her arrange marriage and keeps away from her family.
Some pupil says that the kill is right. The society and politics starts to discuss about it. Gunther P. says that it happens one single time and it is not normal. Ali K. says that the honour kill has nothing to do with the Islam.
At the 2 February everybody should think about the way women are trade right. They want to make public against violence to women.